So, as the title says, I ve basically not had sex for 6 years, except for 3 or 4 occasions, which did nothing but increase my thirst for it.
I am 26 and never had problems with ejaculating early.
In all of my old relationships, I would take my time to gather confidence and maybe ejaculate quick the first 2 or 3 times with a partner because of anxiety. After that, I used to have the opposite problem and last as long as I wanted.
Now I am with this new girl, and we are dating frequently.
And I happen to have high sensitivity on my penis when it comes to penetration.
So everytime we start penetration I really have a high desire to ejaculate.
I would take short breaks during the intercourse so that my ejaculation feeling cools down a little bit to then get back at it; and sometimes this lead to me getting used to the penetration and reaching the “control” Point from where I can control my orgasm.
I absolutely hate this feeling and this big need to ejaculate everytime.
It has never been a part of my sexuality and you can imagine how paranoid I am getting with this. And the more I think about it, the more it happens. The more it happens, the more I think of it.
I know I don’t have premature ejaculation cause I could reach those “control” Situations during some of our intercourses, and I have talked to my girl about this and she doesn’t even care, it’s all good, but still, I just wanted to hear from some of you for some assurance.
A female friend of mine has recently started dating a man (both of which are cisgender). It’s been about a month but they’ve been intimate ten or so times. Recently we went out for drinks and she told me that he ejaculates about 10-30 seconds into sex. He’s in his late 20s. She said she’s tried slowing it down, has had him go down on her for ages etc, but as soon as sex is involved he can’t maintain his erection for long. He also doesn’t seem to be mentioning it, which I can completely understand because it’s a touchy and sometimes embarrassing situation to be in. Neither of them have addressed it properly/directly.
I’ve had a similar situation where a partner of mine couldn’t get an erection, but have never been with someone who had PE so I don’t have much advice for her. What is the best way to bring up to your partner that you’d like them to last longer in bed without hurting their feelings or making them feel embarrassed or uncomfortable? Is this a psychological or biological thing? (Perhaps @Nurse_Nettie can answer that one more in depth). I know there’s a few exercises you can do like masturbating and stopping right before you ejaculate but again, obviously a very difficult thing to bring up with a new partner.