Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the biggest worries I hear about it, but it’s rarely medical issue. So what is it? PE is just a fancy way of describing the frustrating experience of ejaculating or ‘cumming’ too quickly. Despite what you may see in porn, most people with a penis will ejaculate in around five minutes of penetration. What does ‘too quickly’ mean then? PE is usually defined as ejaculating in less than a minute and feeling unhappy about it (if it’s not a problem for you & your partner, it’s not actually a problem).
PE is really common for young people. As you get older the time to orgasm often gets longer. As you get more sexually experienced you may also get better at controlling it. PE can also be related to anxiety. For example, when you’re new to sex or starting a new relationship, many people will feel anxious about sexually impressing a partner. Previous bad experiences with sex can also cause a loss in confidence or create some insecurity. All of these stresses can make PE more likely.
What can you do about PE?