@jessica I totally used to feel the same way about it being the penis bearer’s responsibility to carry a condom. When I realised however that it can go both ways, I felt super empowered to to take the responsibility upon myself.
I wanted to bring up the whole peer pressure element of condom use. I know that I am pretty adamant about using condoms and have always made it a priority. The one time I didn’t was because in that moment I felt pressured to maintain the atmosphere and present myself as ‘chill’. Thankfully- I was lucky and there were no physical repercussions, but I know it could have gone differently. Has anyone else struggled with this?