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  • #122793
    tea
    tea
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    So we’ve had similar topics on orgasms – like ‘can’t orgasm‘ (which has since had some user information deleted) but I’m struggling to find anything helpful for me. I’m hoping I’ll get some answers here!

    For maybe the past two weeks I’ve been finding it almsot impossible to orgasm? Sex is fun and fine but I just can’t seem to finish off? I’ve tried with my partner and myself and it’s just not happening. I get this kind of overly sensitive feeling (not like I’m going to squirt or anything) and I just can’t get the feeling right. I don’t know how to explain it really, I kind of feel broken? Nothing else has changed except getting my IUD removed so I’m not sure if my hormone fluctuation has something to do with it.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Should I go see a sex therapist? My GP? Help!!

    Can’t Orgasm | The Female Orgasm | The Big ‘O’ 

    #122798
    Aunt_Flo
    Aunt_Flo
    Moderator

    I know what you mean about the overly sensitive feeling @tea – The same thing happens to me!

    For me, it usually happens when I’m too tired, distracted or stressed.

    I think focusing on the fact that I can’t orgasm also makes it worse – it’s a frustrating cycle!

    #122803
    tea
    tea
    Moderator

    I’m so glad I’m not alone in this @aunt_flo! Also update: I had a chat about my anxieties with my partner and I was able to orgasm!!! I think stress and anxiety were definitely at play here.

    Do you have any good coping mechanisms for it? Talking it out seems to work for me but what if you’re not comfortable doing that?

    #122805
    Aunt_Flo
    Aunt_Flo
    Moderator

    @tea wooohooooooooo!

    For me, patience and being nice to myself is usually what works. It can take a little while, but I’ve come to realise that getting frustrated or blaming myself for not orgasming is zero per cent helpful.

    So I usually just try to relax, and try to enjoy sex or masturbating, even if there’s no orgasm at the end.

    And then eventually I get there again!

    #123189
    Purple
    Purple
    Moderator

    Glad that you were able to communicate and talk that out with your partner @tea. I can never orgasm when I’m stressed either! It’s crazy how stress plays into that. Or changing medications too!

    #123391

    YogiGirl
    Keymaster

    This is definitely great advice!

    #123395
    EarthMama
    EarthMama
    Moderator

    @tea @aunt_flo this same thing has happened to me! I am glad you were able to orgasm @tea!
    When I have that super sensitive sensation it is usually a signal to me that I need to stop for a bit. Usually after stopping and allowing the sensitivity to decrease I try again and it’s all good!

    #123396
    EarthMama
    EarthMama
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    @tea @aunt_flo this same thing has happened to me! I am glad you were able to orgasm @tea!
    When I have that super sensitive sensation it is usually a signal to me that I need to stop for a bit. Usually after stopping and allowing the sensitivity to decrease I try again and it’s all good!

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